3 Reasons why asking others for directions bothers some men you travel with.

Men and directions

Written by Ashton Deroy:

This is a conversational blog piece on relationships. 

By now everyone should know of the cliche on men not liking to ask others for directions. It is a pet peeve of mine. It gets on some of our nerves. It is not just a matter of not wanting to do it ourselves, we actually don’t like when people we travel with do it! Why don’t we like this? I am going to explain 3 obvious reasons we don’t like asking for directions.

  1. You expose weakness – Take for example when I was in Oshawa this weekend to help my friend prepare for college. We were downtown Oshawa trying to find our way around. My friend Glessie thinks, lets ask someone for directions. There is a big difference in who street savvy men will ask for directions and  who women with good interpersonal skills will ask for directions. Women with higher interpersonal skills think you can ask everyone as long as they do not look sketchy. Men are programmed differently. If we do ask for directions we ask a security guard, a store employee, someone who if they mugged us we could identify something about their occupation. What women don’t realize they are doing? You are telling some random person on the street. “Hi we are lost here. We are either tourists or vulnerable persons who could be isolated & ambushed easily.”  In fact in 100 Deadly Skills by Clint Emerson he talks about blending in to the environment you are in. One of the things that will make someone stick out is identifying they don’t know where they are going or how they will get there. This exposes a vulnerability that makes you a potential victim for an attack. https://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/crime/article212749359.html man gets away with $760 in cash for robbing a Florida tourist.(They always go after the tourist or lost person
  2. You expose incompetence – Asking for directions to me is like saying, “Hi we barely know how to follow a Google Maps instruction. Can you explain our route to where we are going?” No guy wants to look like he is bad with technology. Also the other thing you expose is if a crime occurs you will barely be able to tell the authorities the name of the street it occurred on in time for anything to be done about it. Why is this? If you needed directions, chances are you don’t f***** know where you are!
  3. You get the right answer 33% of the time – This is the biggest reason I will not travel long distance without data, a fully charged cellphone battery or someone who doesn’t know exactly where the heck we are going! Chances are only 1/3 of the people you ask for directions will give you the right directions. It isn’t always their fault. They were not on your trip! You are, you should be taking responsibility for your entire trip. On a side note, I also give people bad advice on directions all the time. Usually they are shouting at me out the car window for directions and I just have no idea where the 401 is! 

Listen there is a value to knowing how to get where you are going. Personally if I think someone will need spoken directions to get somewhere I would simply rather not travel with them. Invest in getting an independent sense of direction. Men do not want to be with the girl who is ready to ask anyone on the street, “Hi, do you know how to get here?” I am Ashton Deroy and please, break this habit as soon as possible. 

The future is green, not automated. Looking at ineffective automation in Belleville Transit

The future is green

Ashton Deroy writes: Please read until the end of the post. I wanted to let people know some updates on my blog.

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If you live in Belleville Ontario. You might not be too impressed with the effort to automate the monthly pass sales for Belleville Transit. In fact, the whole process has been quite underwhelming. You might even say it has been a complete failure that has impacted rider experience.

It is true, in Belleville Ontario the monthly pass sales used to be handled by a Belleville transit worker at the bus terminal. As of late though we had automated it to this machine. Until the machine stopped working and no maintenance was completed to fix this ongoing problem. This is a part of a bigger problem that it is time to confess to.

Worker automation sucks! 

If you are in the tech industry or Business studies right now you have heard bull sh** stories about how everyone with easy job risks being automated out. By robots, vending machines & websites. Well, your demise has been quite overstated. The future is green, not automated!

How can I say this for certain? Besides the fact that the USA is a global market leader and all of their major Democratic candidates are singing the praises of a Green New Deal. We have to just look around and see the future has to be green, not automated. The earth is cooking people, plastic is everywhere in our eco-system. People are questioning the leadership of highly automated companies to be a powerhouse in change at this time.

https://www.vox.com/energy-and-environment/2018/1/19/16908402/global-warming-2-degrees-climate-change

The earth is cooking: Above are the challenges of climate change in relation to temperature. A lot of the challenges have to do with sustaining our production of wheat, access freshwater & the disappearing coral reefs. Automation and use of wasteful technologies do not help. For example, we had machines to automate packaging Cheesie products at Hawkins Cheesies when I worked there in 2019. However these machines had a high error margin which resulted in higher outputs of plastic waste, there is something about setting a machine up to create 24-gram product bags where the machine throws out several large barrels of plastic a day.

Plastic is everywhere & Machines have no conscious : I touched on this above, but Quinte West & Belleville manufacturing has a long way to go before they are thinking with a green-conscious. Automation is helping nothing! A machine has no conscious. It is an input of numbers and demands executed with the machines bast capable precision. The machine doesn’t ask us, “Are we creating too much waste?” It just does what it is told. So machines don’t know in factories that our outputs of waste are too large and they are destroying our eco-system. This is something people have to make us aware of.

People are questioning the leadership of highly automated companies: Take for example Fido. The only company I know that gives their customer service with a “f*** you!” They have tried to shift many of their processes to automated practices. Such as payment robots, website commerce & online bill reviews. All it has really done is ticked off plenty of their customers. To the point where many of their customers consider them a bad company. As much as I am for having customer stop receiving a paper bill, there is a lack of thought this company possesses in thinking about something like Cellular phone sales. A process such as cellphone sales really should be executed by a person to avoid confusion, system mistakes & teach the use of phones. Online this process is confusing, customers don’t get to ask questions and many of the mistakes the Fido.ca website makes are mistakes agents need 3 times as much time to sort out. Furthermore, a machine can not really confirm a person to person consensus which is required in 2-year term business transactions.  Automation is crap, it is costing companies money based on low-quality results.

Listen automation just sucks. I used to say, what do you expect all the workers to do when they stop working? Now I say, “Who the heck is going to fix the machine the was supposed to replace a person?” The answer is, “I don’t know.” However, if the machine was an employee at the Belleville Bus terminal, Fido & Hawkins Cheesies. I think we would have fired them a long time ago.


News & Updates

  • Starting School September 3 2019 – I will be returning to Loyalist College to complete the remainder of my Business diploma.
  • 2019 Election – I will be supporting Justin Trudeau and the Liberals in an effort to take down the rising Conservatives lead by Andrew Scheer.
  • Marijuana update – We need to keep a strong unified front in stopping the over-regulation of the marijuana industry. Due to a decision in Toronto people have lost their homes and possessions due to our law enforcements cruel enforcement of what feels like a new form of prohibition. We must not let this affect the stoner haven Tyendinaga.

 

3 issues with Belleville public transit.

3 Issues with Belleville Public Transit.pngTrenton & Belleville Ontario are growing and are set to grow more with tourism. However one of the biggest issues I have brought up to the Bay of Quinte in the expansion is the lacking infrastructure for public transit. We have a lacking transit system that does not work, but we are still way too ready to tell people to rely on their livelihoods with a hit or miss bus. It is ridiculous.

Here are three clear problems with the Belleville Transit system.

  1. One way transit system– I get home from school faster than I get to school. Why is this? It is because my home comes after the college on the bus route. Meaning instead of the bus taking me the simple 5 K from my nearest stop to college. I am doing the entire trip back to the terminal before I can even get to the college.
  2. 1 hour until your next bus – If I miss a bus at 10 minutes after 7:00p.m. . I have to wait until 8:10pm just to be able to get home 5k in the cold
  3. It is legitimately faster to walk at times- For example if I just missed 12:10pm bus and I needed to get home in an hour. It would be faster for me to walk home then it would be to wait for the next bus to arrive.

Other issues with Belleville Public Transit

  1. No full functioning nightlife service– If we want to reduce impaired driving it is vital we have an ongoing service for popular pub nights. Neglecting that we need not think we have enough alternatives to prevent drunk driving.
  2. Lousy weekend service – Saturday & Sunday really should have full day bus service. They do not… I think we should fix that because if Belleville is going to handle tourism. They are going to need adequate bus systems.
  3. Over filled bus – We need to add more buses on routes like the #7. Just because right now people are close to sitting on the roof of the bus at this point. How do we fix this? Add another bus during peek use times. This is large part of why I avoid the bus at 8:00am , 12:00pm and 6:00pm because they are crowded bus times.
  4. Accessibility issues – The fact is the bus creates accessibility to work, education and broad transportation is violated. In the fact we don’t have a more functional bus service. Why don’t we expect disabled people to get anywhere past 8:00pm on a Sunday?

 

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