Written by Ashton Deroy:
This is a conversational blog piece on relationships.
By now everyone should know of the cliche on men not liking to ask others for directions. It is a pet peeve of mine. It gets on some of our nerves. It is not just a matter of not wanting to do it ourselves, we actually don’t like when people we travel with do it! Why don’t we like this? I am going to explain 3 obvious reasons we don’t like asking for directions.
- You expose weakness – Take for example when I was in Oshawa this weekend to help my friend prepare for college. We were downtown Oshawa trying to find our way around. My friend Glessie thinks, lets ask someone for directions. There is a big difference in who street savvy men will ask for directions and who women with good interpersonal skills will ask for directions. Women with higher interpersonal skills think you can ask everyone as long as they do not look sketchy. Men are programmed differently. If we do ask for directions we ask a security guard, a store employee, someone who if they mugged us we could identify something about their occupation. What women don’t realize they are doing? You are telling some random person on the street. “Hi we are lost here. We are either tourists or vulnerable persons who could be isolated & ambushed easily.” In fact in 100 Deadly Skills by Clint Emerson he talks about blending in to the environment you are in. One of the things that will make someone stick out is identifying they don’t know where they are going or how they will get there. This exposes a vulnerability that makes you a potential victim for an attack. https://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/crime/article212749359.html man gets away with $760 in cash for robbing a Florida tourist.(They always go after the tourist or lost person)
- You expose incompetence – Asking for directions to me is like saying, “Hi we barely know how to follow a Google Maps instruction. Can you explain our route to where we are going?” No guy wants to look like he is bad with technology. Also the other thing you expose is if a crime occurs you will barely be able to tell the authorities the name of the street it occurred on in time for anything to be done about it. Why is this? If you needed directions, chances are you don’t f***** know where you are!
- You get the right answer 33% of the time – This is the biggest reason I will not travel long distance without data, a fully charged cellphone battery or someone who doesn’t know exactly where the heck we are going! Chances are only 1/3 of the people you ask for directions will give you the right directions. It isn’t always their fault. They were not on your trip! You are, you should be taking responsibility for your entire trip. On a side note, I also give people bad advice on directions all the time. Usually they are shouting at me out the car window for directions and I just have no idea where the 401 is!
Listen there is a value to knowing how to get where you are going. Personally if I think someone will need spoken directions to get somewhere I would simply rather not travel with them. Invest in getting an independent sense of direction. Men do not want to be with the girl who is ready to ask anyone on the street, “Hi, do you know how to get here?” I am Ashton Deroy and please, break this habit as soon as possible.